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Facts & Myths about Infertility

Myths: Infertility is a women’s problem
Facts: This is untrue. It surprises most people to learn that infertility is a female problem in 35% of the cases, a male problem in 35% of the cases, a combined problem of the couple in 20% of cases, and unexplained in 10% of cases. It is essential that both the man and the woman be evaluated during an infertility work-up.

Myths: Many people and even doctors feel that a retroverted uterus in the woman causes infertility.
Facts: This is absolutely untrue.

Myths: In most people after having intercourse the semen flows out and they think that is responsible for infertility
Facts: This phenomenon is normal for all couples and is not any way the reason for infertility.

Myths: Everyone seems to get pregnant at the drop of a hat.
Facts: Every 1 in 10 couples experience infertility. When you seek support, you will find that you are not alone.

Myths: It’s all in your head! Why don’t you relax or take a vacation. Then you’ll get pregnant!
Facts: Infertility is a disease or condition of the reproductive system. While relaxing may help you with your overall quality of life, the stress and deep emotions you feel are the result of infertility, not the cause of it. Improved medical techniques have made it easier to diagnose infertility problems.

Myths: Don’t worry so much — it just takes time. You’ll get pregnant if you’re just patient.
Facts: Infertility is a medical problem that may be treated. At least 50% of those who complete an infertility evaluation will respond to treatment with a successful pregnancy. Some infertility problems respond with higher or lower success rates. Those who do not seek help have a “spontaneous cure rate” of about 5% after a year of infertility.

Myths: If you adopt a baby you’ll get pregnant!
Facts: This is one of the most painful myths for couples to hear. First it suggests that adoption is only a means to an end, not an happy and successful end in itself. Second, it is simply not true. Studies reveal that the rate for achieving pregnancy after adopting is the same as for those who do not adopt.

Myths: Maybe you two are doing something wrong!
Facts: Infertility is a medical condition, not a sexual disorder

Myths: My partner might leave me because of our infertility
Facts: The majority of couples do survive the infertility crisis, learning in the process new ways of relating to each other, which deepens their relationship in years to follow.

Myths: Perhaps this is God’s way of telling you that you two aren’t meant to be parents!
Facts: It is particularly difficult to hear this when you are struggling with infertility. You know what loving parents you would be, and it is painful to have to explain to others that you have a medical problem

Myths: I shouldn’t take a month off from infertility treatment for any reason… I just know that this next month will be THE one!
Facts: It is important periodically to reassess your treatment and your parenting goal. Continuity in treatment is important, but sometimes a break can provide needed rest and renewal for the next steps.

Myths: I’ll be labeled a ‘trouble maker’ if I ask too many questions.
Facts: The physician/patient team is important. You need to be informed about what treatments are available. What is right for one couple may not be right for another, either physically, financially, or emotionally. Don’t be afraid to ask questions of your doctor. A second opinion can be helpful. If needed, discuss this option with your physician.

Myths: I’ve lost interest in my job, hobbies, and my friends because of infertility. No one understands! My life will never be the same!
Facts: Infertility is a life crisis — it has a rippling effect on all areas of your life. It is normal to feel a sense of failure that can affect your self-esteem and self-image. You will move through this crisis. It is a process, and it may mean letting go of initial dreams. Throughout this process, stay informed about the wide range of options and connect with others facing similar experiences.
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Trying to conceive?

The key to getting pregnant is ovulation. By pinpointing when you ovulate you will increase your chances of getting pregnant. This can be a simple process or a bit tricky depending on your body and your fertility signals.
The good news is that many women have signals that show when they are ovulating. All you need to do is to find them and then you’re on your way to trying to get pregnant.

» 5 Signs You Are Ovulating.
1. Increase in cervical fluid.
When you are ovulating, your body increases the amount of cervical fluid. Many women just notice that towards the middle of their cycle they are a bit more moist. This can make sex easier because you usually don’t require lubrication from outside sources. Women also report feeling more sexually attractive and attracted to your mate. (The good news is that they seem to have the same feelings when you’re ovulating because of pheromones and other not so easily explainable forces.)
2. Your cervix moves forward.
You can easily check the position of your own cervix. Simply wash your hands and stick a finger or two inside your vagina and feel the cervix. When you are not fertile you will notice that your cervix is harder and not open. Your cervix will feel about the consistency of the end of your nose. When you ovulate the cervix is easier to reach, a bit softer and slightly open to receive sperm. At this point your cervix may feel more like your ear lobe.
3. One sided pain during ovulation.
This is called mittleschmerz or middle pain. This is an achy feeling arising from the ovary just prior to or during ovulation. Not every woman notices this pain. But if you do experience it is a good clue that you have ovulated.
4. Your basal body temperature shifts.
If you are tracking your basal body temperatures you can see where your temperatures shift downwards then suddenly spike upwards. This is also an indication of ovulation. This requires that you take your temperature on a daily basis.
5. You have an LH surge.
This one requires testing with ovulation prediction kits (OPK). This involves spending money to purchase test kits that measure the amount of LH in your urine

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